Domestic Abuse

We're publishing these anonymous diary entries as part of our Cut the Strings campaign. They are based on true accounts of domestic abuse. 

Please click the boxes below to read each diary entry, and find out how the police helped this woman find a new life, free of abuse.




If you or someone you know is in a similar situation and needs help, please call 101 or 999 in an emergency. There are other ways to get support and you can find out more about those here. 


Who's pulling your strings?

Anyone could be a victim of domestic abuse, and on this page you can find out more about the help, support and advice that's available. 



Click here if you want to navigate away from this site quickly.

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse is any incident of controlling, or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults, aged 16 and over, who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender and sexuality. 
Children witnessing domestic abuse is really distressing and scary, and causes serious harm. Children living in a home where domestic abuse is happening are at risk of other types of abuse, too. Approximately 900,000 children will be exposed to domestic abuse per year. 
Signs of domestic abuse
Every domestic abuse case is different, but there may be signs that abuse is taking place. These include: 
  • Belittle, name calling 
  • Being forced to do things, what to wear and where to go
  • Made to feel frightened
  • Being punished
  • Being watched and checked up on
  • Controlling finances
  • Stopped from seeing family and friends
  • Violence – including punching, slapping, pulling your hair, pushing and strangling
  • Honour-based violence
  • Forced marriage
  • Sexual abuse – forced into unwanted, unsafe or degrading sexual activity
  • Threats - including family and pets
  • Damaging personal possession or furniture
  • Intimidation
  • Isolation
  • Harassment

How we can help?

At South Yorkshire Police we take all domestic abuse, rape and sexual assaults very seriously. We are committed to protecting the lives of both adult and child victims of domestic abuse, to investigate all reports effectively, to bring offenders to justice and hold them accountable for their actions as well as provide support and advice from our Protecting Vulnerable People team as well as our partner agencies.
If you are experiencing domestic abuse report it to us by calling 101 or 999 in an emergency, or tell a family member, friend or neighbour. Many abusers rely on silence to continue the abuse.
If you are worried about a loved one or someone you know, report it to us. We will listen.
If you are deaf, hard of hearing or speech impaired, you can textphone us on 18001 101 or 0114 2523294 or send a text to 07786220022. Watch this video to find out more about how you can get support.
Domestic Abuse Disclosure Scheme
This scheme – also referred to as ‘Clare’s Law’ – gives members of the public a ‘right to ask’ police if their partner has a violent past and may pose a risk to them.
It can also be used by third parties who are concerned that the partner of a member of their family or a friend may pose a risk to that individual. Information will only be given to those who are best placed to safeguard the person at risk.
More information:

Watch the below video that has been produced by Gwent Police:

Legal Aid

You may be entitled to legal aid to help meet the costs of legal advice, family mediation and representation in a court or tribunal. The Legal Aid Agency will require evidence of domestic violence and abuse in order to fund legal aid in these types of cases. You can request some evidence from South Yorkshire Police. Download Request for Evidence Form.

South Yorkshire Police does not endorse the views of any third party.